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A neighbor has complained about you

Sometimes it's a note under the door. Sometimes it's a letter from the city, an HOA notice, or an officer at the door asking about noise. However it reaches you, a complaint you think is unfair is still a complaint on someone's record, and the version that gets written down first tends to stick.

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Last updated Oct 10, 2026

Written by Dave Shelton, founder of BuildMyEvidence. Thirty years in business taught him that the person with a clear record gets taken seriously.

Write down the complaint exactly as it reached you

• Who complained, or who told you about it.
• When, and how it reached you.
• What they say is happening, how often, and since when.
• Any specific dates or times they mention.

If it came in writing, keep the original. If it was in person or on the phone, write it down the same day. How to write down a phone call

Then write down your side, date by date

Neighbor complaints are almost always about something that happens again and again, and the complaint usually describes it in general terms: "every night", "all the time", "constantly". The most useful answer is specific.

For the dates or the period they mention, write down where you actually were and what was actually happening. Work calendars, receipts, travel bookings, timesheets and messages all help, because they were made at the time and not for this. One of our worked examples turns on exactly that: A neighbor complaining about noise from your place: a worked case

From now on, keep a short note on the days that matter: what you were doing, what time, and anything you noticed from their side.

Photos, where they fit

If the complaint is about something physical, like a boundary, a tree, a fence, a car or a structure, take dated photos now, from the same spots each time, and keep taking them if anything changes. Find the date a photo or video was taken

If there is a survey, a permit or an HOA approval that bears on it, find it and note where it came from.

If you talk to them

Sometimes a conversation fixes it. If you have one, write down afterwards when and where it was, who was there, what each of you said, and anything agreed. If something was agreed, a short friendly message confirming it puts it on the record for both of you.

If the city or the HOA is involved

Then there may be a notice with its own instructions. Read what it asks and by when, keep the notice, and answer in writing. If it's a notice from the city, there's a page for that: A code violation notice was left at your property. If it's from your HOA: You got an HOA violation letter.

What to leave alone

• Don't retaliate, not with noise, not with complaints you wouldn't otherwise make, and not online.
• Don't record them on video or audio over the fence unless you know where you stand on that. The rules differ from state to state.
• Don't go onto their property to look, measure or take photos.
• Don't let it run on conversations alone. Anything that matters goes in a short written message afterwards.

What your side looks like when it is in order

BuildMyEvidence is a place to put it. You write down what happened, as it happens, and attach what you already have. Everything gets a date and a number.

For something like this, that gives you:

• Their complaints, listed separately, each with its date and how it reached you.
• Your own dated account of the days and times they mention.
• One chronology of every contact, notice and conversation.
• Your own statement, in your words, numbered, with a page at the end to sign by hand.

You can read every page in full before you pay. The screen copy carries preview marks across it. The file you download is clean, and it is $59 once, for this case. What the $59 covers

It is a record, not a lawyer, and it does not tell you whether you will win. It makes sure that in three months, when somebody asks what happened, you are not relying on what you remember about a night that was months ago.

Read one that is already written

Two of our four worked examples are written from this side — somebody answering something they did not start. You can open them and read every page, free.

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Questions people ask

Should I make a complaint back?

Only if you would have made it anyway. A complaint made to even things up tends to read that way. If you do have concerns of your own, the same record holds both.

The complaint is completely made up.

Then your record is how you show that. Dates and documents from the time do far more than saying it didn't happen. Your word against theirs

Can the city fine me over a neighbor's complaint?

That depends on where you live and what the complaint is about, and we are not going to guess. Any notice you get should say what it is about and what happens next.

Is what I write here private?

Yes. It is your account, and nothing leaves it unless you send it. Privacy

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